Somewhere out in the great beyond, someone is searching for you in everyone they meet. Whether they are wishing for you to come back or trying to find you in another, they don’t realize that the person they once knew no longer exists. Time has shaped you, molded you, and changed you in ways that they could never comprehend. Every fiber of who you once were has been rewoven to contend with the reality of now. That relationship—the one that shaped your future for better or worse—is nothing but a whisper in the wind, a distant memory locked away by the hands of time.
You cannot stay trapped in the past, yearning for something that no longer exists. Just as Lot’s wife turned to a pillar of salt for looking back, you, too, will find yourself frozen in place if you keep longing for what was. Life is not meant to be lived in reverse. The memories, the lessons, they served their purpose. They made you who you are. But they are not your future. They are not your now.
And just as there are those who search for you in others, there are also those who despise you—not for who you are but for who they believe you to be. Maybe it’s because you had less and still did more. Maybe it’s because you refused to let life break you while they let it consume them. That kind of resentment has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own shortcomings. Do not give them your energy. Do not lend them your attention. To acknowledge them is to give them power, and that is a power they do not deserve.
My favorite thing is not to hate but to nothing those who harbor resentment. Indifference is the greatest armor against those who wish to see you fall. People who carry self-loathing often try to expel it onto everyone they meet, hoping that someone will carry the burden for them. But that’s a them problem. Let them stew in their misery while you walk in your peace.
What matters most is where you place your focus. Choosing the right people to stay in your life is of overwhelming importance. Don’t believe me? Stay around the wrong people long enough, and you’ll see just how quickly their negativity can pull you into the abyss. Before you know it, you’ll be standing in the complaint line right beside them, wondering how you got there. Energy is contagious. Protect yours with everything you have.
Everyone wants the big reveal, the grand moment when it all makes sense. But getting there requires razor-sharp focus. You cannot walk the well-trodden path of the masses and expect to find something extraordinary. You must carve your own backroad, forge your own journey, and allow the unknown to shape you. The details of what it will look like, what it will feel like—those will come in time. Experience every emotion, every lesson. Trying to heal in the same place that made you sick will only cost you your well-being. You must let go of the expectation of what it should look like and allow the painting to take form in its own way.
Before you make that wish, make sure you truly understand what you’re asking for. Wishes come with consequences—both punishments and pleasures. Be prepared for all that comes with them. It is healthy to set boundaries. It is even healthier to accept that imperfection is perfection in its own way. You are unique, and you were never meant to fit into a world that does not belong to you. You are here to carve out your own existence, to embrace your own wants and needs, to create a life that is wholly and authentically yours. But you will never truly understand what that life looks like until you let go of the illusion of control. Let the masterpiece unfold on its own.
So if they are out there searching for you in someone else, let them. If they couldn’t appreciate you while they had you, that is their burden to bear, not yours. Let them go to the ends of the earth in search of what they lost. You know where you are. You know who you are.
And if they hate you for everything you are not, let them. Their perception of you is not your reality.
You are absolutely perfect, with all your imperfections.
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